Unique thing in common
With a partner find the 3 most unlikely / weird / surprising things you have in common with each other
Each pair chooses one to share with the group
by Erica MarxGoal
build connection & trust
get to know someone
Instructions
Choose someone you don't know that well.
With your partner find the 3 most unlikely / weird / dramatic things you have in common.
Instruct to find many things and then keep deciding which ones are the most interesting. Choosing things you like, have done, hobbies, pet peeves, quirks, etc. This will help people avoid obvious visible things (both have curly hair). The goal is to come up with the most surprising things.
This exercise can help smart & introverted types overcome the reluctance to engage because it taps into a bit of competitive spirit (to find the weirdest thing)
After everyone does this, ask each pair to choose one to share with the group (they don't need to share them all). Give them time to select which one they want to share.
Variation
* Do same exercise in a larger group (have pairs find another set of pairs or in groups of 3)
* In small groups list things in common and things that only one person has in the group (I have not tried this one) -- See https://www.sessionlab.com/methods/common-and-unique
Author
I help teams connect, collaborate, and perform at their best in both virtual and in-person environments. As an executive and leadership coach, I design highly engaging experiences where people can think together, navigate challenges, and strengthen the way they work. With a background in leadership coaching, facilitation, and applied improvisation, I create interactive retreats, conferences, and networking events that energize participants and create lasting impact. My work creates the conditions for psychological safety, honest communication, and deep collaboration, allowing teams to build trust, navigate challenges, and achieve meaningful results together. I am deeply committed to mission-driven organizations. As a board member of the International Applied Improvisation Network, I partner with nonprofit and social justice leaders to help their teams thrive in fast-changing environments.
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