3 things in common
In pairs, partners find 3 unusual things they have in common. Then each pair chooses one to share with the group.
by Erica MarxGoal
connect participants with each other
get to know others in group
Instructions
1. Start in a circle and then have everyone begin walking around the room.
2. Instruct participants to "find someone that they don't know very well" for this activity and stand next to them.
Suggest some prompts - shared experiences,
ie. first job
(don't suggest likes/dislikes)
https://knowyourteam.com/blog/2018/01/08/the-25-best-icebreaker-questions-for-team-building-at-work/
3. Each pair now has 3 minutes to find the most unusual 3 things that they have in common. Encourage them to really explore to find the most unusual things. They will likely start with things like pets and places they've lived, but then will dig deeper to find shared hobbies, fears, travels, desires, experiences, etc.
4. After 3 minutes instruct each pair to take 1 minute to choose one thing to share with the group.
5. Reform group circle. Go around the circle and each pair shares their shared unusual thing.
Debrief options
What strategies did you use to find things in common? Unusual things?
What's patterns do you notice in the unusual things?
What does this tell us about what we find interesting in others? In what we share?
What surprised you?
How have your feelings changed toward your partner?
What does this show you about forming connections?
How does what you found in common relate to X topic (of the training, workshop, team, etc.)? How could you apply it?
Possible to connect regardless of difference
Possible variation - put questions on cards.
Background
Author
I help teams connect, collaborate, and perform at their best in both virtual and in-person environments. As an executive and leadership coach, I design highly engaging experiences where people can think together, navigate challenges, and strengthen the way they work. With a background in leadership coaching, facilitation, and applied improvisation, I create interactive retreats, conferences, and networking events that energize participants and create lasting impact. My work creates the conditions for psychological safety, honest communication, and deep collaboration, allowing teams to build trust, navigate challenges, and achieve meaningful results together. I am deeply committed to mission-driven organizations. As a board member of the International Applied Improvisation Network, I partner with nonprofit and social justice leaders to help their teams thrive in fast-changing environments.
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